This morning, BuzzFeed is featuring a story from Project Unbreakable (website/Tumblr), who work with survivors of sexual assault, photographing them holding a poster with a quote from their attacker. Today’s unique story uncovered stories from men who have been assaulted, and touches base on some of the stigmas surrounding men and sex, with quotes from attackers such as “Don’t worry, boys are supposed to like this,” and “You’re a guy, you can’t say no to a girl like me.”, as well as many threats to hurt loved ones. Many people still don’t realize that yes, men CAN BE and ARE victims of sexual abuse, not only from women but from fellow men, and that it is not made any less traumatizing for a man simply because he is a man, and saying things like “man up” does nothing except further dehumanize and hurt the victim. There is, if possible, even more blame put on a male victim of sexual abuse than female because people assume that all men want sex, from any person, at any time. Stop this. Stop the abuse of ANYBODY, stop victim blaming, and stop telling male abuse survivors that men being raped “isn’t a real thing.” You can read the full story and see the rest of the pictures here.
Some of my readers have commented that I tend to err on the side of soft-core stuff. As much as I love seeing, reading, and watching men being dominated by other men, it always has made me a tad uncomfortable to write about situations in where consent is violently stolen. This is why you’ll never see hardcore rape or kidnap stories stories on my Tumblr. I have written a few stories that drift around that thin line, yes, but I always try to imply that the result of action is to help or explore a kink, not to damage. It’s still a fantasy of ideal emotions and outcomes, yes, but it’s the only way I can feel that I’m not cheapening the trauma of rape among men.